#reverb16 

March is and was all about habits. I specifically waited till the last day to participate in this month’s prompt for the #reverb16 projected hosted by Kim & Sarah. I paid special attention to my habits or the lack there of…

Observations: 

*I have successfully given up commenting on negative comments on Facebook, or anywhere else, it’s just not worth giving up my good mood!

*I still need to get in the habit of not taking negative comments personal, even if they don’t have much to do with me…

*I love my habit of sending thank you cards/notes/messages and plan to NOT give this one up. 

*My coffee habit needs rethinking, not that I plan to give it up, but maybe consider a few other options than what I currently order. 

*I do want to make this blog more of a habit again, along with pictures, now that we have bought another “good” camera. 

*I do put on my sneakers the same way. Every single {damn} time. Same with other clothing articles. 

My verdict after this month is that certain things aren’t worth changing, who cares if I put on the left sneaker first? But there are some things worth reevaluating. 

Fun, can’t wait to see what April brings!

#reverb16

I’m joining my friends Sarah & Kim in the #reverb16 project. Monthly prompts will be emailed and you write (or don’t), share (or don’t) your thoughts…

Prompt for February 2016: Super Bowl month has us thinking about our culture’s inherent need to belong and to experience things together as a community. What events are important to you during the year? How do you show solidarity with your tribe?

I think we all aim to belong, one way or another. Yet I’ve never felt the urge to be a part of a specific tribe, a clique, one group. Since 1978, I’ve had one best friend and tons of other close friends, acquaintances, people I know. I’m lucky to have groups of close friends on three continents, people I love seeing and spending time with! Our gatherings aren’t event driven but rather caused by us being in the same place at the same place. When I was younger, I used to run around making sure I’d see EVERYBODY while in Switzerland for 10 days, but now, I pick and choose, I’ve become pickier and choosier. Within the various “tribes”, there are my heart people, people I feel closer and more connected to.  Over time and with age, my tribe has gotten bigger yet smaller. And that’s the way I love it. 

 

As we are getting ready to head to Switzerland and the US, the question arises as to who will I see and connect with. Most importantly, in Switzerland, my BFF & her family. And of course, my parents. There’s also the baptism of my god-son, so we will become a part of his life and share this special day with him and his family, which I’ve known since 1977. 

Moving to Cartagena meant meeting new people, hopefully making new friends, yet at the end of our tour, I need to be friends and get along with one person, and one person only: husband man. Everybody else, new friends, are a bonus! 

And one final thought, you can’t be everywhere, attend every event. It took me a while to figure out that an invitation isn’t an obligation, regardless of who extends it. Be choosy. Be selective. Be picky. 

  

#reverb16

Take 2! 

After posting the picture below, it’s exactly two years old, pre-Cartagena, a friend commented “you look so different”. My very first thought was: better? Worse? Older? Skinnier? What CHANGEd??

 

Change is the prompt for January #reverb16. After asking myself for a few loooooong minutes, what has changed, I decided to take a look at myself, and look at the changes. 

I’m definitely tanner, living in the southern Caribbean does that to you, but not important. I look a lot more relaxed, not really a statement since I was just a little (!!) tired and emotional leaving WDC, but I AM a lot more relaxed. Living the life I’m privileged to live does that to you. No deadlines might appear to be stressful, but I still make lists, get done what needs to get done so I can live that life to its fullest. I follow my mantra “live más” a lot more. I’m even more curious and open to new, and new adventures than ever. Maybe knowing we will eventually have to leave Cartagena and CHANGE our home address again does that to me? 

I’m going to take my friend’s comment as a compliment, I could look at some wrinkles or a few white hairs, but why beat myself up over something inevitable? Age, just a number, an everCHANGEing number!

  

#reverb16 – 1/12

I decided to join Kim and Sarah for reverb16, a monthly writing project. 

Changes | A lot of people use January as a jumping off point to implement changes in their lives. How do you implement change? Slowly? Cold turkey? Incrementally with a plan?

I’m not afraid of change, never have been. Yet I am afraid to fail, so it’s not the actual change that occasionally paralyzes me, it’s the potential of a less than perfect outcome. On the other hand, I know gradually changing something and taking baby steps into a new direction won’t cause immediat failure…yet I’m also the least patient person I know, so gradual change and I don’t get along either!

Neghar Fonooni wrote a blogpost about “what’s the one thing that will make the biggest impact”. I like that approach when it comes to change as well, go big or go home basically. But: I’d implement BIG changes strategically, well planned and ideally risk free!